Practical Self-Compassion.

Compassion is the recognition of suffering in others or yourself and the desire to elevate the suffering. [1] A little bit oversimplified for comprehension, let’s say that we have two modes of being of which one is the control mode [2]. It’s nice to have control; we point out what is wrong with the other …

Perfectionism: How does it work and how does it develop?

Perfectionism; how does it develop and how does it sustain itself? Perfectionism often starts with low self-esteem. The paradox is that perfectionists are hardworking and do achieve a lot. But the starting point is that the person feels really low. Perfectionism is there to cover up the gaps. Very high standards are imposed on oneself …

Why perfectionists become depressed.

Does your perfectionism gets in the way of your daily life, self-esteem and overall fun? There is no need to panic because - we perfectionists - have the perfect (of course!) solution: Analyze why I am a perfectionist? Mull over our mistakes we’ve made. Fix them all. We just going never to make a mistake …

The monster under your bed or is it the voice in your head?

‘You’re really an awful person!’ ‘Why are you so freakin’ lazy?’ ‘C’mon you know you’re fat.’ ‘You can’t do it, you know that.’ ‘Was it really good what you did?’ ‘Everybody will see that you’re a failure, it’s just a matter of time.’  The conversations we have with ourselves, what are they and how to …

‘Hangxiety’ or how NOT to start 2020!

  Hello dear readers of my blog. Today is almost the very last day of 2019 and we are ready (or not) to jump into a new decade. 2020. First of all I wish you all the very best for the New Year and of course a lot of blogging fun!   Secondly, on a …