Perfectionism: How does it work and how does it develop?

Perfectionism; how does it develop and how does it sustain itself? Perfectionism often starts with low self-esteem. The paradox is that perfectionists are hardworking and do achieve a lot. But the starting point is that the person feels really low. Perfectionism is there to cover up the gaps. Very high standards are imposed on oneself … Continue reading Perfectionism: How does it work and how does it develop?

The monster under your bed or is it the voice in your head?

‘You’re really an awful person!’ ‘Why are you so freakin’ lazy?’ ‘C’mon you know you’re fat.’ ‘You can’t do it, you know that.’ ‘Was it really good what you did?’ ‘Everybody will see that you’re a failure, it’s just a matter of time.’  The conversations we have with ourselves, what are they and how to … Continue reading The monster under your bed or is it the voice in your head?