Those who follow my blog may be familiar with the section ‘Bits of Psychology’. This post started out like that but soon it took its own course into my life story. To say it like it is, gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse. It is a manipulation tactic to confuse others, make them question … Continue reading Bits of my story – Gaslighting.
Perfectionism; how does it develop and how does it sustain itself? Perfectionism often starts with low self-esteem. The paradox is that perfectionists are hardworking and do achieve a lot. But the starting point is that the person feels really low. Perfectionism is there to cover up the gaps. Very high standards are imposed on oneself … Continue reading Perfectionism: How does it work and how does it develop?
‘You’re really an awful person!’ ‘Why are you so freakin’ lazy?’ ‘C’mon you know you’re fat.’ ‘You can’t do it, you know that.’ ‘Was it really good what you did?’ ‘Everybody will see that you’re a failure, it’s just a matter of time.’ The conversations we have with ourselves, what are they and how to … Continue reading The monster under your bed or is it the voice in your head?
Depersonalization is a core symptom of burnout but is also seen in depression as well in other mental disorders. Depersonalization can consist of a detachment within the self, regarding one's mind or body, or being a detached observer of oneself . People feel they have changed and that the world has become vague, dreamlike, … Continue reading Bits of Psychology – what is depersonalization?
What are cognitive biases? A cognitive bias is a systematic pattern of deviation in judgment. Individuals create their own "subjective reality" from their perception of the input. An individual's construction of reality, not the objective input, may dictate their behavior in the world. Cognitive biases, however sometimes useful, may sometimes lead to perceptual distortion, inaccurate … Continue reading Fun with Psychology – cognitive biases.