Practical Self-Compassion.

Compassion is the recognition of suffering in others or yourself and the desire to elevate the suffering. [1] A little bit oversimplified for comprehension, let’s say that we have two modes of being of which one is the control mode [2]. It’s nice to have control; we point out what is wrong with the other …

Perfectionism: How does it work and how does it develop?

Perfectionism; how does it develop and how does it sustain itself? Perfectionism often starts with low self-esteem. The paradox is that perfectionists are hardworking and do achieve a lot. But the starting point is that the person feels really low. Perfectionism is there to cover up the gaps. Very high standards are imposed on oneself …

Mythical Monday – Visualization.

There is nothing wrong with a little self-help. In the end, you need to live with your illness or troubles or past or stress. I would presume, people do what they can think of to make their life better no? That’s just nature. Trying to better you situation will also be the case for some …

The net and the brain: a toxic relationship?

  I always wondered what my small and -hopefully- insignificant obsession with the world wide web was. Why do I like the internet so much? I used to watch a ton, and I mean a ton, of YouTube. I’m in on all the drama over there. I wonder if I watched so much because I …

Depression and Motivation.

I don’t remember when I lost the connection to my feelings. I do know that I live in my head now. Constantly. I can think about everything  and doubt everything. I don’t ‘just’ think about things but I second guess myself a few times before I can make a decision. What big decisions do I …