7 reasons to love someone with depression. (5′ video).

I’ve found this short video (5′) while scrolling the net. I found it so cute, it made me feel better about myself and it made me smile. I decided to share it with you in the hopes it can brighten your day too…

 

….but me being me, I have my opinions, here we go.

 

 

7 reasons to love someone with depression.

 

They are stronger than most. I don’t know about that but I find the graphics well done on explaining how it feels to fight yourself. And that it requires energy to do that and that giving up sometimes would come to mind.

 

Their depression does not define them. That is true. When you are someone’s friend, you like them for who they are.

 

They’re more understanding. I’ll be honest on this one; I used to be. I am understanding and an empath. I try. But there are times when all of my energy is used to keep myself alive. I wish I had more energy to be as curious as I was. I wish I could be the good friend I was. I am not at this moment. So, I disagree a little on this one or am I a negative Nancy now?

 

They are more honest. Yes! There is no energy to waste in the lies and deceit-department. When some things don’t interest me, I just can’t give a flying f*ck. [Except when ‘perfection’ comes to show but that is a whole other post.] As the video focuses on love and friendship, they don’t mention all the lies depression can tell you and that it can make you think in a not entirely honest way with yourself. As for other people, most of the time, yes, you can talk to me all you want, I will zone out after a while, I do that also quite honestly.

 

They are quite appreciative. I feel this one wholeheartedly. There is that wall but the people who break through or take a peek behind the wall, are golden to me. I love them and appreciate them very, very much!

 

They are good listeners. Yes! and yes, when energy allows me too.

 

They are deep thinkers. I don’t know if this is maybe an over generalization but I feel that is true for me.

 

 

What do you think about this video? Do you struggle with depression or maybe your friend does? Do you agree with the statements made in the video or do you have some remarks like me? Do you know other reasons why loving ‘someone-with-mental-health-struggles’ holds positives? Tell me in the comments and also let me know if you like more ‘lighter’ posts like this, some ‘funzies’ or do you prefer posts with a more serious undertone? 

 

 

 

Resources and credits.

 

Psych2Go YouTube channel, website and blog.

Picture credits click here.

22 thoughts on “7 reasons to love someone with depression. (5′ video).

  1. I would say those are things that can be true, but aside from the one about not being defined by depression, the rest of them aren’t going to be true about everyone with depression. I think that’s something that becomes an issue when anyone tries to say depression looks one particular way. Personally, I lie more when I’m depressed, and the worse my depression is, the less interest I have in listening to others.

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    1. That is the pitfall of such generalizations. It all depends on the people and the fase you’re in. I agree. I don’t know why but this clip made me feel good about something that I really view as a positive I guess.

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    2. I agree with Ashley; also, I think there’s a danger of romanticising depression, particularly the “depressed people are deeper than average” idea which has probably done a lot to keep me depressed over the years.

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      1. Yeah I was thinking about that point too because I don’t know about that. I know that I think too much (I was just happy to see it as a positive for once in the animation, because I’m used to be told not to think and it’s approached negatively) but I don’t know if its true. I mean, everybody can get depressed whether you think too much or not. Depression can hold you in rumination but that is something different.
        I agree that depression isn’t something to be romanticized.

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  2. I think there is another element to the “strength” bit, the external factors. For example, when you have spoken about benefits etc. You have been through all that, you understand it. /it makes you stronger because one day, you might be strong enough to help the next person get through it. I have seen both the benefits system and the health system over the last 4 years, I am far more knowledgable about them as a result (which means, unfortunately, that I can tell you exactly where they fail people). But I think that added knowledge is a strength.

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      1. When it is over, knowing what you have found out will have value. Maybe to an employer, maybe to a charity, hopefully both. Can you imagine, somebody just starting to go through this process, how much you’d be able to help them? That’d be brilliant, when you yourself feel able.

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  3. This is a beautiful list! I’d agree with all these too. And I know I’m definitely an over-thinker. I’m also honest and I think part of my experiences with mental health and depression have made me more empathic, appreciative and understanding. Really good point too about how depression doesn’t define you. Underneath that is still a person, a person with so much more too them than their diagnosis.
    Excellent post!  ♥

    Caz xx

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  4. Yes, I agree with most of it but like some of you’ve commented – it’s different for everyone and different depending on where you are ‘mentally’, somewhere on the scale i.e. at the beginning it doesn’t feel like ‘strength, but nearing recovery, it’s easier to identify our strengths 🙂 x

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  5. It is nice to see something positive about depression, thank you for sharing it. I’m glad it felt uplifting for you and I love your opinions. I think we come across, videos, books, articles, conversations, etc that connect with the truth we feel inside ourselves and it feels good to share that truth with others. It also feels good to be a free thinker and point out the things we disagree with rather than taking everything as truth for ourselves. We are all teachers and students.

    There are times when I’m deep in depression or anxiety, I feel very selfish and self-centered. I tend to slip into survival mode and that gives me tunnel vision.

    I do feel I am understanding of others and their individual journeys. Depends on the day or the hour. My moods can be so quick to change.

    I enjoy your posts. You have a lot of variety and always have pleasing pictures and graphics throughout. You have a delightfully well rounded blog!

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    1. Thank you! I’m super glad with your comment 🙂 Especially about the pictures, I takes me for ever to find them sometimes.
      I was thinking about using my own pictures like you do but somehow it didn’t work out yet.
      I think it’s normal to get into survival mode, it’s needed to concentrate the energy that is left on you. But that can make me feel selfish too sometimes. As you said, we’re all teachers and students.

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      1. Feeling selfish then starts the string of negative self talk, such a vicious cycle. I’ve been stuck in survival mode since my divorce. I’m slowing coming out.

        Well, great job on the photo’s, it shows your artistic creativeness!

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  6. This is so sweet! I do agree with you on the “more understanding” part. The experience of depression may open up our perceptions, but when someone is actively fighting a battle in their head, it’s not realistic to expect them to also devote their whole focus to someone else’s problems. I mean, imagine a person literally fighting a dragon and trying to counsel a friend at the same time. That would not go well. Once we are in a secure place ourselves, we can offer security to others.

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    1. That is what it is, fighting a dragon and not a very nice one! It takes all of our focus and energy. But once the dragon goes away or to sleep, we can share our best dragon fighting skills 😊

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