There is nothing wrong with a little self-help. In the end, you need to live with your illness or troubles or past or stress. I would presume, people do what they can think of to make their life better no? That’s just nature.
Trying to better you situation will also be the case for some people trying to catch and mislead people who are suffering. They sell false information or mostly half-truths for their own gain in the form of adoration, attention, money, status, greed, ego, I don’t know what else. Fact is that when you’re ill, you need to be careful!
The other kind, the good kind of self-help, grounded in research is also available to those who help themselves. Just keep in mind that even the best self-help may be too simplistic to manage complex problems, and that research, with its emphasis on straight science, may not always offer a clear course of action.
With that all being said, let’s bust some myths!
Myth: Visualize your goal, and you’ll help make it come true.
Self-help says: Hold the image of yourself succeeding, visualize it so vividly, that when the desired success comes, it seems to be merely echoing a reality that has already existed in your mind .
Research says: Sports psychologists have shown the power that visualization has on improving performance, but simply imagining that you’ve achieved your goal won’t bring it any closer.
Shelley Taylor, Ph.D., a psychologist at UCLA, has reservations about visualizing your goals. “First of all, it separates the goal from what you need to do to get it. And second, it enables you to enjoy the feeling of being successful without actually having achieved anything. That takes away the power of the goal.”
Better would be: In addition to picturing your goal as a fait accompli, you should figure out what the steps to get there are, and then mentally rehearse them. This can close the gap between only thinking and actually taking that first step towards your goal.
In an experiment, Taylor asked some students preparing for an exam to imagine their happiness at having received an “A” on the test, and others to picture themselves sitting in the library, studying their textbooks and going over lecture notes. Those in the second group performed better on the test, and experienced less stress and worry.
For short-term goals, Taylor recommends running through the steps you’ve laid out once a day; for bigger dreams, you can revisit your plan every time you make some progress, and see if it needs adjusting.
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