There is nothing wrong with a little self-help. In the end, you need to live with your illness or troubles or past or stress. I would presume, people do what they can think of to make their life better no? That’s just nature.
Trying to better you situation will also be the case for some people trying to catch and mislead people who are suffering. They sell false information or mostly half-truths for their own gain in the form of adoration, attention, money, status, greed, ego, I don’t know what else. Fact is that when you’re ill, you need to be careful!
The other kind, the good kind of self-help, grounded in research is also available to those who help themselves. Just keep in mind that even the best self-help may be too simplistic to manage complex problems, and that research, with its emphasis on straight science, may not always offer a clear course of action.
With that all being said, let’s bust some myths!
Myth: When you’re down, think yourself happy by focusing on the positive.
Self-Help: “You need to go on a mental diet. I did this several years ago. I was going through unbelievable pain at the time… What turned it around, is one day I picked up this book called The 7 Day Mental Diet, it was a little tiny booklet and all that book really did was challenge me if I, for 7 days, could live my life without one negative thought. When you have a negative thought, you don’t speak it or you erase it. You forget it. You focus immediately on something positive. You can’t believe what it will do for your life”. 
Research shows that when we’re anxious or stressed, when we need a mood boost, our minds become unable to provide one. That’s because we’re so preoccupied with our troubles that we don’t have enough brainpower left to suppress negative thoughts. And when we try to distract ourselves, pessimistic notions are the only ones that come to mind. “If you’re really under stress, putting yourself in a good mood by thinking positive thoughts becomes not only difficult — in fact it backfires, and you get the opposite of what you want,” says Daniel Wegner, Ph.D., a psychologist at the University of Virginia.
Myth busted: In an experiment, Wegner asked a group of people to put themselves in a good mood, which they did, fairly easily. But when they were also told to keep a nine-digit number in mind, they actually felt worse. The energy they had available to control their mood was reduced by the effort of remembering the number.
Better would be: “You have to enlist the help of other people,” Wegner says. “Talk to friends or relatives or a therapist, or anyone else who might be able to help you think about other things.” Or go to a place where people are enjoying themselves, like a party or the park or the mall, and you’ll soon feel your spirits lift. Think about what can help you to feel better, practice self-care for you and do what you need in that moment.
Finally, if you know in advance that you’re going to be upset or anxious about something, make a list of positive things that you can refer to when you need it most. You can have a photograph in your purse of your loved one, or you can put your favorite smell on your handkerchief. Just do one small thing for you, so you can cross that of your list. And when it doesn’t work, don’t fight it. Let it be and this too shall pass.
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